It’s been a really confusing couple of weeks, and I’m sort of at a loss on how to describe it, as you can sort of gather from my previous blog entry. In fact, I’m really not sure if it’s even worth the effort to describe, because really… what’s the relevance? Who cares?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying “Woe is me, nobody cares about me,” or anything like that – but I have to be honest. I don’t have any close friends other than my wife, and even she recognizes that I have a self-destructive tendency to distance myself, especially from things that are going to be emotionally stressful, even from her. That’s nobody’s fault but my own, so recognize that I’m not whining about how people haven’t been there for me or anything along those lines. There’s billions of people in the world who have far deeper needs than I do, rest assured.
But, the fact remains, I don’t have any real Christian friends per se. The only time I get called/emailed is when somebody wants something. Whether it be help with a computer, or a web site, or something done at the church. That’s the only kind of telephone call I get. The irony is if someone actually did call for anything other than that, I would get uncomfortable and anxious to get off the phone! *click* Boooooooooooooooo…
Ask the folks on #prosapologian – every time someone starts talking about me in any way, I go on a crazy tirade about Furbies or Pez or the like – anything to put focus on something other than my problems. Yes, I know some see right through it, but hey – as long as they’re distracted long enough to realize that “these aren’t the droids they’re looking for,” then all is well. Or is it?
No, it isn’t. In our small groups, and in my church, there’s been a lot of talk about the absolute need for fellowship, and the mutual compassion we are supposed to have for the members of the body. Who can I depend on? Especially now, when I’m going through an emotional mine-field, which is affecting my life and loved ones in very real ways, when I’m hurting people I don’t want to hurt all because of my own introspective stupidity! More importantly, who can depend on me?
Intentionally cutting one’s self off from real fellowship is just as self-destructive as something like alcoholism. God gave us not only His grace and a relationship with Himself, but he gave us each other. What does it say about me when I rejoice in one of His gifts, but then say, “Umm, you can keep the fellowship-thingy, okay? It’s not really my color.” How does one manage to fight their way out of that degree of utter madness?
Heh. The real beauty is, nobody really knows what that previous blog entry is about. Nobody knows why I think “ignorance is bliss.” Why? Because I haven’t told anyone – and even when I have talked about it, I’ve done my best to be cold and separated from it. Why? Well, because ignorance is bliss, I guess.
Duh. It’s a wonder He lets me take another breath.